I’m 16 years old. My parents had divorced a few years earlier, mainly because of my father’s alcoholism. And now, my mother is marrying another alcoholic, and my father, who I felt close to, moves 1,500 miles away. I feel lost and my self-worth drops. I’m thinking: Does anyone care about me? (By the way, I never saw my dad again, and he died when I was 42.) My new step father dies of a heart attack a year after my mother marries him. So, I meet an older guy, who I’m thinking will give me the security I need, and we get married when I’m 19.
Now I’m 28 years old. By then, I had three horrendous pregnancy losses: A stillborn girl at eight months, then an ectopic pregnancy that required surgery, and a premature baby that didn’t survive. My husband cheats on me with a prostitute and is addicted to various sedatives, and threatens me with bodily harm, so I get a restraining order and a divorce. I had moved to a state where I didn’t have friends, I had lost my children, and at the age of 28, I feel like my life is OVER.
But I pull myself together and start to feel good about myself again. I meet someone who reminds me of my father’s good qualities. I’m feeling like this is the one, so we get married. It’s three years later, and what seemed like a “nice guy” is really someone who is very angry, and is making threats and damaging my car. I get another restraining order and another divorce, and the loneliness is back.
Now I’m 38 years old, and I’m in another troubled relationship. I’m sitting in a psychologist’s office telling her my problems. After about 30 minutes of this she looks at me and says “excuse me, do you have the word DOORMAT written on your forehead?”
This is the defining moment, and I realize that the answer to my problems are INSIDE of me, and that I’m the one that holds the power. All those years of feeling disempowered by other people are now over. It’s time to totally shift my thinking, and to love myself.
I start my journey within by reading books on self-empowerment and mindset. I had been working in corporate for 22 years and worked my way up to be a top analyst for a major bank. It’s there that I hone my skills of digging deep to find answers. And, I discover I have this intuitive ability to help people solve the mystery of why they’re stuck, and to move on and create a life that’s authentic to them.
I study mind-body wellness, become a transformational life coach and clinical hypnotherapist helping people to go deep, heal their past and create a future that’s aligned with who they really are. I write an award-winning book that helps people to lose weight by healing from the inside out without diets that leave them feeling even worse about themselves.
I’m now married to another hypnotherapist who shares my vision about the power of the mind and healing on a mental, emotional and spiritual level. His expertise is in dementia, and what I learned from him helped me to work with my mother before she passed away. (My mother and I became best friends by the way.)
I have horses, including adopted mustangs that I also incorporate into my life coaching retreats with clients. I create something called the “Mustang Mindset” which is all about self-empowerment, and using our subconscious mind (or “horsepower”) to heal our emotions, and use the power of our imagination to create the life we really want.
I live in Arizona, which I absolutely love, doing the work that lights me up and fills my soul while I help others to reconnect with themselves and discover self-love, and their inner power to transform their life.
I’m also chairman of the board of directors of a nonprofit organization that helps people with PTSD, neurocognitive and neurological disorders (dementia, Parkinsons, ALS, and more): Soquili.org
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