My Story

I’m 16 years old. My parents had divorced a few years earlier, mainly because of my father’s alcoholism. And now, my mother is marrying another alcoholic, and my father, who I felt close to, moves 1,500 miles away. I feel lost and my self-worth drops. I’m thinking: Does anyone care about me?  (By the way, I never saw my dad again, and he died when I was 42.) My new step father dies of a heart attack a year after my mother marries him. So, I meet an older guy, who I’m thinking will give me the security I need, and we get married when I’m 19.

Now I’m 28 years old. By then, I had three horrendous pregnancy losses: A stillborn girl at eight months, then an ectopic pregnancy that required surgery, and a premature baby that didn’t survive. My husband cheats on me with a prostitute and is addicted to various sedatives, and threatens me with bodily harm, so I get a restraining order and a divorce. I had moved to a state where I didn’t have friends, I had lost my children, and at the age of 28, I feel like my life is OVER.

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What’s Stopping You?

I’m guessing there’s some area of your life that you’re not living FULLY.
 
Some aspect of it that isn’t totally in balance.
 
Is it the work you do? The relationship you’re in (or not in)? Perhaps missing out on fun and recreation?
Every client I’ve ever worked with has had some area of their life that was out of balance, and chances are you do too. (Is anyone’s life perfect?)
And when it comes to shifting that area, I just want to ask:  What’s stopping you?
 
What’s holding you back from going after what you really want?
 
For me, its usually been fear.
 
Fear that I’d fail.
Fear that I’d be rejected. Again.
Fear of scarcity… that the money would run out… 
 
But the truth is that what really runs out is time.
 
The time to live in your power and be really connected to who you are.
 
To make the changes you want to make in the world before it’s too late and your time is up.
 
You may be aware in the back of your mind that time is indeed running out, but you kid yourself that you can buy more time when you truly can’t.
 
It’s like how a business owner feels at the end of the year when their business is still failing and they didn’t take the opportunity during the year to do what they needed to do to improve their results.
 
Then they suddenly realize that it’s too late.
 
If you want to make an impact on the world but you’re stuck in a job that’s not in alignment with your passion…
 
If you don’t like where you live and you’ve thought about moving for years but you haven’t been able to let go…
 
If your relationships aren’t where you want them to be (personal OR family)…
 
It’s time to consider the mindset behind the block.
Is it fear of something unknown? Beliefs caused by past experience?
It’s time to look under the hood and find out what needs tweaking.
Look within, because that’s the only place you’ll find the answers.
And if you need help, I’m here for you. 

Are you becoming the company you keep?

Mark Victor HansenTo the left is a photo of me with Mark Victor Hansen, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul and entrepreneur extraordinaire.

Mark is a very inspirational speaker, who can help to shift a person’s mindset in a positive direction just by listening to his infectious enthusiasm.

Which reminds me of the philosophy that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

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