Getting Back To You After Relationship Trauma

Four Week Live Online Group Program!

There will be a weekly live video call that will include a relaxing guided meditation for healing the trauma bond, and we’re going to also create balance and clarity with journalling prompts in between!

Sign up below for only $97!

 

When the relationship with a narcissist ends, it’s quite different than the average breakup…
 
The narcissistic relationship cycle goes from: Idealize, to Devalue, to Discard.
 
In the Idealize phase the “love-bombing” (excessive compliments, charm and other treatment that feels intoxicating) creates a deep emotional “soulmate” type connection to hook the person in. (The narcissist needs to believe that this new person is the greatest thing ever because it feeds their ego.)
 
But then the Devaluation begins after they realize the person isn’t perfect after all, and this results in put downs, temper tantrums “gaslighting” and other psychological abuse; yet because the emotions run so deep, the person can spend years waiting for the narcissist to go back to the wonderful, loving individual they once were.
 
The discard happens after the narcissist finds a new energy “supply” as the luster of the original supply has warn thin, and the cycle starts over.
 
The person who has been discarded feels shocked and traumatized, in addition to possible jealousy over the new supply and other emotional roller-coaster type experiences. Hindsight is 20-20, and the person can begin to realize other covert behavior such as infidelity that they couldn’t see when their mind was in a “fog”.
 
In addition, the narcissist seems to sniff out and hit on insecurities such as fear of abandonment, so the discard can feel especially traumatizing.
 
The relationship itself creates a “trauma bond”, that makes it especially difficult to become psychologically free of. It’s much like getting over a drug addiction, except we are addicted to their approval. Even though the bond feels terrible, the willpower to break free from from it isn’t easy, and the person is usually emotionally drained at this point and has lost their sense of self.
 
The person is in so much pain, that they can easily get sucked back into the relationship and this is known as “hoovering”. At least the person feels better that they are getting some attention, which is like putting salve on a wound. But if they go back, the abuse will begin again.
 
For someone who hasn’t experienced this, they may wonder why we can’t simply walk away, and not feel the pain of the bond that is so hard to get rid of.
 
So how do you get past it? Having the support of someone who has been there with the aid of deep healing work.
 
Hypnotherapy takes us to the subconscious level of the mind where our emotions are, and helps us instantly de-stress, go into a deep state of rest so that we can recharge, and reconnect with who we are after losing our sense of self. (This comes from not respecting our intuition because we were busy pleasing the narcissist).
Life coaching tools gives us more ammunition to get on track with our life.

So, what’s the antidote? It’s being Wise and Empowered!

Being in a relationship with a narcissist is draining. They will suck the energy out of us and take our soul if we let them.

This is why it’s important to take our POWER back; and if we have been discarded, then it’s REALLY important to become empowered, heal from the pain and rebuild our life.

Women who’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist struggle with:

  • The Trauma Bond
  • Feeling Safe To Leave
  • Going No Contact
  • Learning To Let Go
  • Low Self-Esteem
  • Overcoming The Betrayal
  • Forgiving Themselves For Not Knowing What Was Going On
  • Feeling Lonely Or Anxious
  • Anger That They Have Often Picked Up From The Narcissist
  • Trusting People
  • Not Feeling Like Themselves
  • Drained Of Energy
  • And So Much More…

Wise and Empowered is the solution:

This eight week (eight session) program is delivered either through virtual sessions with email support OR as a two day retreat and covers:

  1. Understanding the Cycle: Knowing what you’re going through OR have gone through, helps you to process it and to know what to be aware of in the future so you don’t go through it again.
  2. Mind – Body – Soul: It takes a holistic approach of healing ON ALL LEVELS to help us get back on track in our life. This module shows you how.
  3. Gratitude and Forgiveness: It’s important to shift all of that negative narcissistic energy to positive to feel good again. These tools will do just that.
  4. Trauma Bond Free: Let’s cut the ties that bond, using mindset techniques that will allow us to finally feel free from that emotional roller-coaster.
  5. Safety and Trust: When we’ve been through a narcissistic relationship, it damages our ability to feel safe and to trust again. Let’s get back on track.
  6. Confident and Fearless: A relationship with a narcissist erodes our self-esteem, and we can be left feeling fearful for various reasons. This module helps to ease our fears and build our self-esteem.
  7. Becoming You Again: We often feel like we’ve lost our identity from the devaluing, gas-lighting and not following our own intuition. Let’s rediscover ourselves.
  8. An Amazing Future: Losing sight of what we want is common. In this module we’ll discover clarity around what we really want and start creating our new life with support.

Join me on this journey of self-empowerment and being free of the pain through awesome life coaching and guided meditation tools that allows us to go deep, heal and create a new future with confidence and clarity.

Kathleen Nightingale is an intuitive life coach, certified clinical hypnotherapist and award-winning author who has been through two marriages narcissists and understands the difficulties of the trauma bond and of feeling stuck. Allow her to reveal the tools to soothing the pain and finally being free to live a happy and meaningful life.

Sign up below for a consultation to see if the Wise and Empowered program is right for you: