I moved back to the East Coast, wanting to go “home” two years ago, and learned a lesson about where home is.
I thought I needed to be near family to really feel connected, and to reconnect with myself, but I discovered that I’m my own person with my own likes and dislikes and that I really needed to be back “home” in the desert southwest, where I truly feel connected.
The truth is…
We are all individuals, and we are NOT our family. Even when it comes to physical issues, unless there’s some rare genetic disorder; obesity, dementia, and other challenges DO NOT necessarily stem from family. (Yes, we have to take responsibility and empower ourselves.)
Self-empowerment is the FIRST step to any personal transformation. (I’ve had my own struggle with that as you’ll read in My Story on the About page.)
When the holidays roll around, or any other occasion that we are near family and we feel caught up in the “dysfunctional family” drama; take a breath, step back and recognize that YOU ARE A POWERFUL, SPIRITUAL BEING WITH DIGNITY, DIRECTION AND PURPOSE. And there’s only one you!
Like the snowflakes that may also fall at the holidays (depending on where you live), you are UNIQUE.
You don’t have to be like “them” unless they inspire you.
You can choose to go down your own path and create your own future.
There are many examples in society of people who became successful IN SPITE of their family background.
There are alcoholics in my family (quite the history of it as well – on both sides), but I made a decision early on that I wouldn’t fall into that trap.
Actually, it reminds me of a story:
There were two brothers who had an alcoholic father. One of the brothers became an alcoholic and the other was a “teetotaller”, who never drank.
The brothers were asked how they came to be the way they are, and they both had the SAME response: “Look at my father”.
So, it’s more a matter of the choices you make, and how you empower yourself that determines who you become.
I talk more about this in the video below:
You are not your family…
Posted by Kathleen Nightingale on Wednesday, 7 November 2018