Guilt, remorse and regret are three words that play into narcissistic abuse. I know them well. I entered into my second marriage with a narcissist by leaving my then husband (who was not at all a narcissist). Let’s just say I fell off the wagon. Again. The extreme love-bombing had me convinced that this was …
Ruminating (getting stuck in our head) after a breakup with a narcissist is common, and not surprising. After all, it’s been a shock to the system. We may be: Feeling PTSD after being unexpectedly discarded by the narcissist, who is now bragging about their new life that we knew nothing about. In utter disbelief that …
Anger is huge after the breakup with a narcissist. It can also show up in the form of depression (or anger turned inward). And we have every right to be angry after the stark realization of who the person really was. It hits us hard, as we realize that we never really knew the person. …
Say it loud and clear: “The narcissist you miss, doesn’t exist”. The person you’re ruminating about, the one that you fell deeply in love with, the person you ache to be with: Never existed in the first place; they’re a non-entity. A fake person. They were only in your dreams. The narcissist made it up …
Love-bombing runs deep into the recesses of our soul. It’s embedded at a level we never thought possible. And so, we end up with a deep emotional attachment to the narcissist, who convinced us on every level of our being that they are our one true love. That no one else could make us feel …
If you have a friend or family member who’s been through narcissistic abuse (and you haven’t), then it’s important to understand where they’re at right now. Because unless you’ve been there, it’s like anything else; you simply cannot comprehend where they’re coming from. It’s a delicate situation of healing from trauma, and Lord knows; they …
After a relationship with a narcissist, It’s easy for us to point the finger at what a terrible person they are. And we’re not wrong. We may see them as the “lying, cheating scumbag” they are. And it’s all true. The problem is that if we stay in the mindset of blame, then we stay …
Wait a minute… what lessons? The relationship with a narcissist is a harrowing experience. It’s like a roller coaster ride inside of a blender. It leaves us shaken AND stirred. The ups and downs are extreme; from being idealized to the point of thinking this is the greatest human being and the best relationship ever… to being at …
Empaths are sensitive. They feel the emotions of others. (Think empathy.) They have a tendency to be people pleasers, because if they can help someone else feel better, then it helps them to feel better too. They’re often not consciously aware of this, but know that they have a deep need to help others. Unfortunately, …
Coming out of a relationship with a narcissist is a harrowing experience. It can send you down rabbit holes you never knew existed. Feelings of being utterly lost, of being in a fog and having no sense of identity, as your identity has been dominated by someone who is much more self-important than you are. Take …
